Muzz Blog | relationships | The Halal: Haram Ratio. Is It Really Important?

The Halal: Haram Ratio. Is It Really Important?

May 31, 2023

Have you ever heard the saying “Too halal for the haram, but too haram for the halal”? That was literally my biggest issue during my husband’s hunt. It was so hard finding someone with the same haram and halal ratio as me, which is actually a very important factor when looking for your life partner.

Imagine if you like listening to music, but your husband is completely against it. Or even worse, imagine you’re sitting at home listening to your music, but your partner is so relaxed about the deen they’re actually at a nightclub on a Friday night!

Looking for your soulmate?

You won’t find your soulmate on this blog post but you might find them on Muzz - the world’s biggest Muslim dating and marriage app.


Yes, I really struggled to meet someone on the same level of religiosity as me, especially in the West. The number of times I got rejected for “being too innocent”…  I think it was quite clear what these certain f*** boy individuals were after, and honestly getting rejected by them was the best thing that could have happened to me. But as always, the rejection still hurt, and it would leave me wondering  “Are there no more good guys in the world?!”

Related contentIs dating haram? Here’s what you need to know 

If only there was some sort of magical way where you could just scan someone and their haram and halal ratio appears on a screen, life would have been so much easier…

But unfortunately, that’s not life. But Muzz does make it easier by adding all the filters to see if someone is close to your level, I mean just by a quick scan of someone’s profile you can quickly see if they drink, smoke, pray etc.

I found my husband on Muzz, but I won’t lie, at first, I didn’t use the filters properly. I used to look at the things that didn’t matter (which I’m very embarrassed to admit).

For example, I’m a Lebanese girl, so the most important thing to me was finding a Lebanese guy (or an Arab) who had a good job and could drive.

haram and halal - driving

That was all I would look for (I was only 19, please don’t judge me too harshly). It didn’t matter if it said “sometimes prays” or “sometimes drinks”. I don’t think I even noticed those things, I would always think “It’s ok I can change him” (I’m rolling my eyes with you). And then they would message something like “Hi. Are you down for sex or whatever?”

haram and halal - rolling eyes

After a few of those messages, I learnt my lesson. I started looking at things that actually mattered, basically what I should have been looking at all along: Their deen! I tried to find out more about their haram and halal ratio.

My husband (who I also met on Muzz) isn’t an Arab, he is still a student and doesn’t have a car. But Alhamdulillah, he’s practising and respects me a lot, and I’m happy with that.

It’s crazy the way life turns out, all I can say is I am so thankful I actually changed my perspectives and I’m no longer as shallow as I was. A sincere tip: utilise the filters on Muzz, and look at someone’s deen and iklhaa, as when you live together and raise your children together, those are the things that will matter the most.

Written by an anonymous  ex Muzz member

Muzz is better on the app!

Muslim Marriage App
All about dating as a Single Muslim
Single Muslim App
Muslim Matrimony
Islamic Dating
Shia Muslim
Sunni Muslim
Muslim Dating
Arab Love
Arab Chat
Muslim dating app
Arab Dating