May 16, 2023
The agony aunties are back to answer more of your pressing questions!
The two aunties answering your questions today have an acclaimed wealth of knowledge on dating and Muzz, as they have both been on the app. Found Love On Muzz has, you guessed it, actually found love on Muzz. While Kissed A Few Frogs has acquired a great amount of insight into red flags and relationship Dos and Don’ts from her own experiences of dealing with all the f***boys.
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Disclaimer: Their responses are just their opinions, so follow it at your own risk!
Salaams Muzz,
This is my first question:
How to deal with voice call or video call nerves? For example, maybe you’re not an excellent conversationalist and more into texting? Or don’t know what to talk about? And in short, you’ve got phone phobia and just anxious tbh?
Thanks!
So I mean, these days, who even talks on the phone. You know that moment when someone calls and you literally just stare at the phone until they stop and then text them saying ‘omg I’m so sorry I missed your call, whats up?’. Yeah that’s me. Unfortunately we’ve all become a bit calling anxious because we’ve just never had to make that effort really since texting is just so much easier. But when you’re getting to know someone romantically, calling is definitely the way forward. There’s so much you can learn from hearing someone speak and how they talk to you. It saves you the time of meeting up with them if they’re just not the one.
With that being said though, I know it can be hard to think of conversation topics or be so worried you won’t know what to say that your mind just goes blank. My top tip is that you should always focus on what the other person is saying, and really just listen. We’re often so worried about what we’re gonna say next, that we forget to actually take in what the other person is saying. Not only is that rude, but it also just makes your life harder when trying to think of what to say next.
If you’re still nervous about calling, then send a Voice Note! They’re super easy, you can still get a feel of the other person without all the pressure of calling. And then once you feel more comfortable you can move to the next level. Remember, as with most things in life, practice makes perfect!
Good luck x