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Ramadan had you different.You were focused. Grounded. Clear on what you want.You weren’t entertaining nonsense. You weren’t wasting time.And somewhere in those late-night du’as, you asked for it:Real love. A real partner. Marriage.Not a situationship. Not “let’s see where it goes.”Something intentional.So why, two weeks later, are you back in the same cycles?

Let’s just say it plainly.You don’t end up in a strong, healthy marriage by moving unserious.You don’t find your person by: •replying when you’re bored •entertaining people with no direction •staying in conversations that aren’t going anywhereAnd you definitely don’t get there by saying “inshallah” and doing nothing.Du’a requires movement.Tie your camel.

A lot of people say they’re “intentional.”But then their actions look like: •talking for weeks with no clarity •avoiding the marriage conversation •being afraid to ask real questions •keeping options open “just in case”That’s not intention. That’s hesitation dressed up nicely.Being intentional means you’re clear, direct, and a little uncomfortable sometimes.

Let’s be real.You downloaded Muzz for a reason.So use it like someone who knows what they want.

If you’re swiping out of boredom, you’ve already lost.Be selective.You’re not here to pass time. You’re here to find alignment.

You don’t need to write a thesis.But if you’re serious about marriage, let that be known.Not aggressively. Not awkwardly. Just clearly.It filters the wrong people out fast.

If it’s been days and you’re still doing small talk…Be honest. This isn’t going anywhere.Intentional people move conversations forward: •values •lifestyle •goals •timelinesIf it feels like pulling teeth, that’s your answer.

Not “what’s your favorite color”Ask things that actually matter: •what does marriage look like to you? •what are you working toward right now? •how do you handle conflict?You’re not interviewing them. You’re understanding them.

This is where most people fail.They see red flags and… stay.They feel confusion and… stay.They know it’s not aligned and still try to “see where it goes.”Be serious.Clarity is a blessing. Confusion is your cue to move on.

This is the uncomfortable part.A lot of people like the idea of marriage…but aren’t actually ready to be intentional about it.Because being intentional means: •saying no more often •walking away faster •being honest even when it’s awkward •choosing alignment over attentionAnd that takes discipline.

You didn’t just imagine that version of yourself.The one who: •had standards •had clarity •had self-controlThat’s still you.So don’t leave her behind just because Ramadan ended.

If you’re still asking Allah for love, for marriage, for something real…Then meet that du’a with action.Be intentional.Move differently.Stop entertaining what you prayed to be protected from.And if you’re using Muzz, then use it properly.Not casually. Not passively.With purpose.Because the right person isn’t found by chance.They’re found when intention meets effort.

It is day 1 of Ramadan, everybody has fresh spirits, renewed spiritual focus, some of us with a very serious and long list of duas, and some of us with strong hopes for the month to fix all our problems. We are determined to get the maximum out of it. We practice the teachings of the Prophet (PBUH) like never before, being careful to not lose patience, to hold back our tongue, to mind our actions. And then, the initially steady flame of focus and determination slowly begins to flicker and we start losing attention from Ramadan’s teachings. This is a common experience of the majority of us. As the month progresses, some start to find themselves flaky and begin to let go. 

However, if we, for one second, forget Ramadan as just one month that will pass, and start imagining it to be something that is there to teach us lessons for all year round. How different would our approach be? A lot of us focus on just one aspect of Ramadan and that is fasting. But, upon deeper reflection, we realise that it is so much more than that. 

Ramadan shows us our potential and who we truly can be. Through abstaining from food and drink, we are given a chance to feel the struggles and pain of people who have very little to no means to get even the most basic food items. This opens our hearts, which makes us sympathise with them and makes us want to help them out. 

One of the most difficult things to do is practise patience. By holding back our tongue, not indulging in arguments, and letting go, we are given a chance to actively practise patience. But if it still feels difficult then try remembering this ayah from the Quran “O believers! Seek comfort in patience and prayer. Allah is truly with those who are patient.” (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:153). 

The various acts of worship such as performing namaz, reading/listening to the Quran, saying dhikr and giving charity are extremely important but these acts are expected from us in the month. What about the acts that are not expected or are not told to us explicitly? These acts include not lying, thinking good thoughts about others, forgiving because you want to be forgiven by Allah. These are also a form of ibadah because it shows one has Taqwa (God consciousness). 

While the month of Ramadan is nearing its end, we shouldn’t part ways with Ramadan teachings. Ramadan shows us the kind of discipline and determination we are capable of so why not make it a point to carry it throughout the year instead of just one month. After all, if there is a will, there is always a way.  

They say, “no act of kindness is ever wasted.” In our daily lives, while sipping tea or coffee, scrolling through our feeds on social media, we constantly read about everything that is going wrong. Yet, we never stop looking for some good news, some act of kindness to remind us that no matter how scarce, humanity is still alive. We, as muslims, are quite frequently told to remember the mercy and kindness that our beloved Prophet (PBUH) displayed in his conduct with people of all ages and statuses. 

Call it a spiritual calling or a soul-calming-need, but the desire to see displays of kindness increases many folds during the Holy month of Ramadan. And many of us are actually able to spot them. Apart from it being encouraged by our religion, Islam, kindness has a significantly positive impact on our physical as well as mental well-being. We humans are designed to exist in communities which requires cooperation, reliance, and genuine connections. Being kind to one another psychologically makes us feel safe and seen by strengthening our sense of brotherhood. 

Moreover, whenever we display an act of kindness towards others, our bodies release feel-good or happy hormones called dopamine and serotonin, which improve mood and decrease stress levels. God knows how much we need them!

Acts of kindness are contagious. Just like when we see someone smile, we start smiling, when we witness someone being kind, we want to do the same. Whether it is talking to someone politely even when they are testing our patience, or helping someone in need. Kindness not only helps us on a personal and spiritual level, it also strengthens our bond with people. So if you are looking for a reason or a way to do something kind, here is a link for donations to help our brothers and sisters in Sudan. 

Overall, kindness is what keeps alive our sense of togetherness in difficult times and makes us believe that we are not alone and there is always someone out there who has mercy and kindness in their hearts.