Can We Just Stop With “Dah Makan Ke?”!

Malaysians are known for their “-lah” at the end of every sentence – “can lah” “jom lah” “see first lah”. Honestly, that’s just what makes us different from others, right? There are also other things that Malaysians are known for, and one of them is starting conversations with “dah makan ke?”. This is deeply rooted from our culture that is rich in food, which then indirectly became our norm.

While that is something for us to uphold, imagine being on a dating app where you are committed to finding your future spouse, and the question you get asked is “dah makan ke?”. To make it worse, imagine matching with five (5) individuals and all of them asked “dah makan ke?”… We can understand why those individuals were ghosted.

Worry not, Muzz is here to help you move away from that generic conversation starter to actually asking a great question to start a conversation… Let’s go!

Be Kepoh and SCAN!

Malaysians are known to be kepoh, kan? This is the perfect time for you to channel your inner kepoh-ness before starting any conversation. While you are browsing through profiles on Muzz, there will be different section that tells about a profile:

• My Faith: This section tells about someone’s Islamic practices and generalized akhlak
• Future Plans: This section tells you about the values they approve or oppose
• Interest: This section tells you everything that got their attention (good place to start)
• Personality: This section tells you about their overall character in person
• Language & Ethnicity: This section says about their culture & the back story of their family

Other than someone’s profile pictures being handsome or pretty, there must be something in this section that caught your eye, which led you to like the profile. Pick any one of the categories that you feel you are curious about and start asking about it. The list is endless, seriously. All you have to do is pick one that you have a similar interest with or are curious about the person you are chatting with, and ask.

Share Your Experience, Unapologetically

Phase one is done, where you ask questions about them. Let’s get to phase two, which is to tell about yourself. If you pick any conversations that are also your interest, this is where you start sharing your part of the experience. Fair warning, DO NOT SAY “same with me” and you end the conversation.

If this person you are talking to wants to know you, s/he must be equally excited to know about your life experience. Start quoting anything that was mentioned by the other party and insert your experience. If you can`t relate to them? Just say that you can`t relate and share your experience.

You would be surprised how the same topic could lead to a meaningful conversation THAT IS NOT BORING.

Bait For Opinion

Humans love to share their opinions, especially on things that they have a strong interest in or things they dislike. Make the conversation interesting by inviting them to take a stance on a topic. This could be a current local topic, a global interest topic, or look through their profile again and get their stance on one of those things.  

Best believe you will get to know their personality and mindset, which can be used to see whether this person is compatible with you or not.

Online dating gets hate for being a place for those who are into pretty & handsome profile pictures only. While having a good quality profile is important, your ability to carry on a conversation is what makes it or breaks it in the relationship.

Make sure to be curious, have fun while knowing someone new, and always be respectful towards everyone!