The Johnny Depp Guide To Loving Your Muslim Wife
September 8, 2012
Johnny Depp is one of the most famous actors of our time. Though rather small in stature (he’s only 5’10), he is known for taking on very big roles.
He usually plays quirky, strange characters with broad personalities. His portrayal of these characters has made him one of Hollywood’s most sought after actors.
If you watch Johnny Depp’s movies, you’ll notice that his characters often have a few things in common. For instance:
They often have a mixture of good and bad qualities.
They often have a conflicting goals and values.
They often have a strong, if often warped, set of values.
If we take a deeper look at the characters Johnny Depp has played, we notice that there are some good qualities to them. And as Muslim men, we might be able to learn from these good qualities.
With this in mind, I thought it might be interesting to examine some of his most popular characters. Let’s see if we can relate some of their good qualities to how Muslim men should behave with their wives.
Yes, I know it’s a bit of a stretch. Just bear with me, alright.
Be Helpful Like Edward Scissorhands
Edward Scissorhands was the first collaboration between Johnny Depp and director Timothy Burton. These two went on to make several other movies together.
In the movie Edward Scissorhands, Johnny Depp plays the part of a mechanical teenager that was built by an inventor as a son. The inventor was unable to finish Edward’s hands and used scissor like fingers instead.
When the mechanical boy, named Edward, eventually goes out in the world, he is scared and confused. However, after some time his neighbors learn that he is very good of cutting hedges and hair.
Eventually, women from all over are coming to Edward Scissorhands for haircuts.
As a Muslim husband, you can also put your hands to work for your wife.
No, I’m not suggesting you cut her hair. If you’re like most men, you are bewildered by the attention and care your wife devotes to her hair.
But you can do things around the house to help her out. Don’t leave all the housework to her.
Make her life a little easier by taking on a few chores. Offer to clean the bathroom once a week or cook dinner on the weekends.
This is all a part of being kind to your wife. As Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) has advised us:
The best among you is the one who is best to his wife.
Recognize and Appreciate Her Like Willie Wonka
I’m really not a fan of movie remakes. Johnny Depp’s portrayal of Willie Wonka in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory is no exception.
But the movie does highlight a very important concept:
Good actions should be rewarded.
In the post I wrote last week, 7 Things Your Muslim Wife Won’t Tell You we saw how important appreciation is to women.
Unfortunately, many men (myself included), get so used to being taken care of by our wives, that we take them for granted.
We don’t thank them.
We get upset if they leave off one thing.
We begin to believe this is part of their “job.”
In the move “Charlie and the Chocolate Factory,” several kids and their parents win a trip to Willie Wonka’s amazing candy factory. Most of the kids are stubborn and spoiled brats.
However, one young boy, Charlie, is a well-behaved, respectful child.
One by one, the other kids disobey one of Willie Wonka’s rules and are removed from the factory (or otherwise made to disappear).
But Charlie obeys Willie Wonka’s orders and is given a great reward at the end as a sign of his appreciation.
Show your wife your appreciation and reward her (with a thank you, or a dinner, or just some time off) for all the good work she puts in for you.
Be Insanely in Love Like Sweeney Todd
Okay, now this one was a bit of a stretch, but I think I made it work.
In Sweeney Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street Johnny Depp plays a psychotic barber named Sweeney Todd. Sweeney Todd is locked up for a crime he didn’t commit.
The corrupt judge who sentences Todd rapes his wife who then kills herself.
Sweeney Todd goes insane from this injustice and after escaping prison, opens a barber shop and proceeds to kill a lot of people. However, his primary target is the corrupt judge who started it all.
Now obviously, I’m not suggesting you go out and kill people to prove your love to your wife. But take how insanely in love Sweeney Todd was with his wife.
You should also be madly in love with your wife. And you should be jealous as well.
You should not want other men to see your wife dressed in an un-Islamic manner. And there should be some (controlled) anger in your belly when you see a man talking to your wife.
Take a look at the following hadith:
Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) visited me when a man was sitting near me, and he seemed to disapprove of that. And I saw signs of anger on his face and I said: Messenger of Allah, he is my brother by forsterage, whereupon he said: Consider who your brothers are because of fosterage since fosterage is through infancy.
As you can see, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) didn’t even like to see a man who may have been related to his wife sitting near her.
Be Dashing Like Captain Jack Sparrow
Captain Jack Sparrow from the Pirates of the Caribbean franchise is Johnny Depp’s most popular character.
Let’s get one thing clear: I’m not at all suggesting you behave like Jack Sparrow. Throughout the movies, he gets slapped by several women he’s been…ahem…friendly with in the past.
But Captain Jack’s swagger and bravado is very attractive to the women in the film. Without a doubt, he is certainly a dashing character.
If you think back to when you were young and courting your future wife, you probably displayed a lot of swagger also. I’m sure you didn’t let your future wife see you in a dirty t-shirt with your hair unkempt and smelling like a goat.
So now that you’ve been married for several years, why let yourself go? Too often husbands forget let themselves go and forget about being dashing and looking nice for their wives.
Don’t be like that. Just like you want your wife to beautify herself for you, beautify yourself for her. You don’t have to dress like a pirate (unless your wife likes that sort of thing).
But you can do some of the following things to remind your wife of the dashing young man she married all those years ago:
Get a haircut! You’d be surprised how much difference a nice, modern haircut will make in your appearance.
Put on her favorite scent. Find out which cologne or attar your wife likes and wear it sometimes.
Brush your teeth, put on deodorant, clip your fingernails. In short, just make try to be well-groomed for her.
Your wife doesn’t want a man with scissors for hands, or a candy connoisseur, or a homocidal barber, or a pirate.
Believe it or not, she doesn’t even want Johnny Depp.
She simply wants a husband who’s willing to do a little extra to please her and let her know he cares.
That isn’t too much to ask for, now is it?]
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