Dear Muzz: How to choose between 2 guys
May 16, 2023
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What do you do when you're talking to 2 very interesting/compatible people?
I have spoken to many people who have been in the same situation. The advice I give them is one of two.
Number one - listen to your gut – it knows what it’s doing! In a situation like this, there will most certainly (not always) be one person which you will be a little more fond of for whatever reason. In this case, you have to go with your gut and chose the person who has that little edge – there must be a reason why, right?
Second bit of advice is, if your gut isn’t speaking to you then you need to become more strategic and treat them like candidates. You have to start filtering out between them. When you have two compatible suitors that you can talk to easily and get along with well, you have to start weighing up the pro’s and con’s of each person – dig deep and see if they’re really a good match for you.
Like always, talk to Allah about it too, ask Allah for guidance. You don’t want to spend your time trying to progress things with two people at the same time, you will end up mentally and emotionally drained which may lead you to make irrational decisions, resulting in no potential spouse at all.
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