Jahan musalman milte hain

“Log shaadi se nahi, buri shaadi se darte hain…”

For many people today, marriage isn’t something they are willing to rush into. And for women especially, the question is no longer just “When will I get married?” but “What kind of marriage am I getting into?”

Women have grown up seeing a very different side of marriage than men. Many have watched their mothers, sisters, and relatives compromise their careers, social lives, routines, and even parts of their identity to adjust to a new family.

So, it’s no surprise that they are now asking more questions before saying yes.

Let’s look at how things were done in the past.

For generations, women were expected to make most of the compromises after marriage. They were often expected to put their careers on hold, change their routines, and prioritise their husband’s family. Over time, these compromises could mean letting go of the things that shaped their individual identities.

Now, look at the other side of the equation.

Men have often grown up without being encouraged to openly communicate their feelings, needs, or expectations. Conversations around marriage were more about “Can you provide?” or “Is the family a good match?” than “How do we want our marriage to work?”

Important questions were often left unasked.

How will you balance your wife and your family?What role do you expect your wife to play in the family?How will you handle disagreements between your wife and parents?What kind of support do you expect from each other?These conversations rarely happened before marriage.

Watch Baat Se Baraat Tak EP 1 here for a more detailed discussion!And when expectations aren’t discussed, they don’t magically disappear after the wedding. They show up later as misunderstandings, resentment, and conflict.

More importantly, without these conversations, it becomes difficult for two people to understand whether they are actually compatible.

So, what has changed?

The shift may be subtle, but it is happening. Women today are increasingly unwilling to make compromises simply because “that’s how things have always been done.” They want to build their own identities, continue their careers, maintain their social lives, and have a say in what their married life looks like.

They are also asking better questions before marriage. Not just “Is he a good person?” but “Do our expectations, values, and ideas of marriage actually align?”

Men, too, have an important role to play in this shift.

Being a husband isn’t just about being a provider. It also means being clear about expectations, communicating openly, and knowing how to navigate the relationship between your wife and your family. A man shouldn’t expect his wife to figure out her place in his family on her own. He has to help create that space.

Ultimately, marriage is no longer just about two families coming together. It is about two people building a partnership — and that requires clarity, communication, and mutual understanding from the very beginning.

Maybe that’s why more people are choosing to get married later. Not because they don’t want marriage. But because they want to be sure they are choosing the right kind of marriage.

In May 2025, Alishba joined Muzz after a recommendation from her sister’s friends. It was her first time ever using an app like this, but she approached it with an open mind because she knew exactly what she wanted. Muzz’s cultural and religious features like chaperone mode, marriage timelines, and invisible mode gave her the confidence to take that step.Within just three days, she found Mobin.

Mobin, on the other hand, had been on Muzz for six to seven months. He had carefully considered over 50 matches but hadn’t found the right one. His profile reflected that intention – it was simple, honest, and deliberately unembellished. While most people try to impress, Mobin wanted to attract only those who were serious. That’s exactly what caught Alishba’s attention.

When they first matched, they decided to skip the texting and go straight to a call. Alishba led the conversation, and Mobin listened, as she told him: “if you’re serious, involve your family.”

“if you’re serious, involve your family.”

Thankfully, both their families were already aware they were on Muzz. Once they expressed interest in each other, everything moved smoothly. That mutual family support became a key part of their compatibility.

For Mobin, this experience was very different from the traditional rishta process, which hadn’t worked for him. When asked for his advice, once again, he kept it simple: “Don’t treat marriage like a profitability deal, focus on becoming the right person, and the right match will follow.“

By the end of 2025, they were married.

Sometimes, it doesn’t take years, just the right intentions, at the right time.

Fazila and Anas’s love story began on Muzz in 2022, in Karachi. Fazila first downloaded the app when her mother was looking for rishtas through rishta aunties, and she found herself irked by the entire process. Fazila was eager to find someone she truly connected with, and decided to take the search into her own hands. Anas had joined earlier, at the end of 2021, but after meeting a few people he didn’t click with, he left – only for fate to make him return to the app, where he matched with Fazila.

Anas had used the compliment feature on Muzz Gold to send Fazila a message, leaving Fazila thinking, “Wow, this man really means it.” What compelled Anas was how similar their likes and dislikes were – he says it felt as if Fazila had “stalked me and then written her bio just for me.” For Fazila, what stood out was how effortless their connection felt; they could start talking in the morning and continue late into the night.

Their story moved fast. They matched on January 15, met in person on January 30, and that very night Anas sent her a sweet message: “I want to grow old with you.” Fazila shared her excitement with her younger sister and her mother, and soon they were talking seriously about marriage. 

That very night Anas sent her a sweet message: “I want to grow old with you.”

Anas, eager and sincere, said, “We’ll get married in six months,” but Fazila recalls a night when she thought, “If we both feel this way, why wait?” They tied the knot the very next month, on March 19.

Years later, Anas credits Fazila for being there through thick and thin, often going above and beyond to support not just him but the whole family. Fazila, in turn, fell in love with Anas’s care and dedication – his presence as a husband made her feel truly supported, something she says deepened her love for him even more. 

Today, Fazila and Anas are happily married with two children, a testament to love found the modern way, yet rooted in sincerity and trust.